Happiness is the Destination

Happiness is the destination we all want to achieve and pursue with all our might from the great job promotion, new car, nice home, and even a beautiful mate. We believe it is only these types of things stopping us from being truly happy with the other side being if we don’t attain them we live life - well- less than happy. However, is happiness really met by merely the things we seek to attain? Could it be we hold to high of expectations on what it takes to be really happy? Do we hold too high of expectations for ourselves?

The TV show 60 Minutes had a segment on saying that the Danes were the happiest people on earth and the reasoning behind it was because their expectations were set low. The Dane believe that if you expect less and get that, then it is expected and not something that leads one to a deep depression or feelings of less. When you achieve more, then all the better. In simple terms – expect less and be happier is the Dane motto.

However, although this may be true to a point, by expecting less you may be happier with what you do achieve, with today’s society in the U.S., it has been beaten in our heads since we opened our eyes and seen the big world outside of what we considered home for 9 months, that things are expected of us right down to the very first cry to clear our newborn lungs and on.

We are told to dream, and reach for our dreams. Everything around us screams bigger and better. And seriously, if you held low expectations, how hard would some really work to achieve anything in this world? There is a healthy balance that has to be met.

Although happiness may be weighed partially on expectations, it shouldn’t just be measured on meeting those expectations. You need to learn to be happy about yourself first because without that your expectations just continue to change, the fancy car becomes not enough that you need the next bigger and better fix. Expectations become somewhat of an addictive behavior always seeking out the next bigger fix and finding regardless if you achieve it or not, you are no more happy than when you were without it. It becomes a vicious cycle.

If you want to be one of those people that have a healthy balance in their life and want to make a positive change in your life- in every aspect of it visit the Turning Point and get ready to step into a brighter future.