Feeling down? How do you break the blues?

Have you ever heard the saying that no one can make you unhappy, sad, etc… op you believe it? To a extent it is true, you choose what and how things are going to effect you, whether it be happy or sad. Some situations you are going to be sad, heart broken, or even downright distraught about a situation or event in your life. Death, divorce, and lost employment are a few examples. It is in how you handle it after the initial sadness is what determines how healthy you handle disturbing life events.

With death, there is the typical grieving process, which varies in duration from one person to the net. Divorce is similar that each individual handles it differently according to the reasons that led to the divorce. Loss of employment can seem like death, but dwelling on the loss instead of getting up, brushing off, and starting over again can be the difference between a fulfilling happy life or one that is lived in misery.

Broken relationships are no different in the matter of moving past the event. If people would learn to process their emotional events in their life, work through them, take the good from them as well as the hard knocks lessons and move on, they would find their lives much more fulfilling and awarding. Dwelling only leads to excessive blues that can become compounded with other issues if one doesn’t work through the bad.

So you are feeling down, it could be as simple as the weather that is making you blue or to anyone of the previous mentioned events that is holding you down but you know you need to break the blues. So how do you go about it? Here are a few suggestions that will help you work towards breaking those blue days.

A person learns to be more content when they stop comparing their lives to everyone else’s, comparing possessions, and even relationships. There will always be people that have it better off than you, as well as there will always be people who have it worse than you. If you keep comparing yourself to those who have more possessions, better relationships, and etc., you will always be unhappy or not fully content. Possession and even relationships compliment us as a person, they do not make us.

People learn to be content when they accept the fact that there is something’s in our lives that we simply do not have any control over, such as death. No matter how much we may want to change something, there are some things you will never be able to change. In relationships for instance, you cannot make someone love you no matter how hard you try. Heck, you can’t even make someone like you if they chose not too. You do not have control over that person’s emotions, thoughts, feelings, soul, or heart no matter how much you wish you did so stop dwelling on it, brush off and push on.

To thy own self be true is the key to contentment. As longs as you concentrate on the things you can change and not the things you have no control over, you will find contentment.

What makes you happy? Have you achieved it? How do you go about getting over the blues? If you would like to learn more about how you can achieve a personal well-being that leads to a pure sense of happiness please visit The Turning Point.