Happy Halloween

Happy Halloween to those of you who celebrate this day with Trick and Treating and Halloween Parties! Happy Friday to the rest!

For those of you hitting the Halloween parties or taking little ones trick or treating, remember to be safe! Please do not send your children out trick or treating alone. If you celebrate this occasion, it is a great time to do something together as a family anyways.

For those of you hitting the parties, be careful driving, there are a lot of kids out running the streets. Often times Halloween parties also bring with them alcoholic drinks, so make sure to use common sense. Do not drink and drive!

Today’s blog is just a fun blog, my own little contribution to the Halloween occasion. Do you call Halloween a holiday, event, or an occasion? Which one is politically correct?

No matter, it is not the direction I intended this blog to be. What I intend on sharing with you all is Halloween parties! How many of you have attended a work related Halloween Party? Was it a costume affair? If so, how many of you struggled on picking out the right costume to wear and what criteria did you use to choose it? Did you worry about things such as: “Will my costume be appropriate, offend anyone, be politically correct (especially if you work a State or City job), too sexy, etc”. I know I did for years! Now I don’t care as much as I used to. I dress for comfort and for my style, what feels right for ME! But like I said, it wasn’t always like that. I used to be one of those that worried about things like that and how it would reflect on me as a person and even more so as a worker for the company I was with. I worried that if what I wore to Halloween parties would jeopardize my job!

Once I came to realize that I was a true asset to the company I worked for, those fears diminished. As long as my work was quality and done with integrity I felt secure, and I was right. I could wear just about anything and get by with it, to Halloween parties that is! I started to wear some pretty bizarre costumes after that and had a great time confusing co-workers of who was under the disguise. So tell me, do you or did you have fears when dressing up for costumed theme Halloween Parties for work? Were you ever apprehensive when choosing one? What was the craziest costume you ever sported and what were the reactions you got? What is one costume you wish you were brave enough to wear but never have!

I hope everyone has a wonderful night tonight, no matter what you are doing and that you have a great weekend as well!

Recession Proof your Heart

The recession has brought a lot of stress into people’s lives leaving a healthy heart at risk! Now is the time to take a few extra steps to make sure your heart makes it through the recession with the rest of your body!

Some of the main factors that affect a person’s heart are stress, anxiety, elevated blood pressure, and depression, all things common with the affects of the recession! Dealing with the increasing financial uncertainties can be devastating on ones health and heart. Because of this it is even more important now, than ever before, to pay extra close attention to your general health and the health of your heart! There is a lot you can do to help protect your heart and improve your health without causing you more stress to your already drained wallet.

Start off by limiting your stress. There is no reason to continually subject yourself to bad news. Stop looking at your 401K and investments daily. Believe it or not, your body reacts chemically each time you subject yourself to stress creating hormones such as cortisol and adrenaline. If you are already at risk of heart disease an increase of these hormones can be very risky if not deadly.

Get your body moving. Exercise is important anyhow, but when stress levels are heightened it is not only important, it is a must! Get out and walk, do jumping jacks, run stairs – it doesn’t matter what, just do it!

Make sure you get enough sleep! Often times with so many other things running through our brains it is hard to get a good night sleep, yet it is imperative that you do! Sleep is the time when your body restores itself; lack of it will result in your body draining itself more and more each day. Not only that, lack of sleep can add more stress to your life by causing more stress and unnecessary oversights.

Stay away from the junk food! Eat healthy and make sure you eat regular meals! Do not fall into the trap of depression eating, or under eating due to depression. If you have to, make yourself eat even if it is an apple and work your way up!

Keep your spirits in check. It is common for the affects of the recession to bring on varying levels of depression. Depression not only affects a person’s outlook on life, but also the health of their heart. It is important to know the signs of depression within yourself and loved ones to get it in check before it takes over. If you or a loved one begins to have prolonged periods of sadness, a loss of interest in things they typically enjoy, signs of sleeplessness, anxiety, loss of concentration, or at worse, thoughts of suicide seek medical help immediately. Do not allow the recession to beat you or your heart through depression!

Now is not the time to be trying to drown your sorrows in alcohol either! Alcohol is a depressant, and when one is not already in a very positive mood, alcohol only compounds the problems, plus it is not good for your body.

Try to maintain a routine, it will help you to keep feeling in control of the direction of your life.

No matter how tight your budget may be, if you are on prescription maintenance medicine, make sure you take it as prescribed. That is not optional and something that should never be considered as a option. If you find you cannot afford your meds any longer, talk to your doctor. They may be able to give you samples to help you get through the hard times or give you other options.

And last but not least, learn to relax! I know, easier said than done at times, but again, necessary. Take some time to focus on nothing else in your life but the good things, the blessings, both small and big. And smile!

Sure, none of these will make the recession go away, but they will help your heart and your soul get through it much easier and healthier.

Recession Proof your Winter

Fall is here and with the fall season comes the cooler temperatures as winter quickly creeps up on us all. The recession will play a huge role in many lives this cooler season due to the unfortunate rise in cost of living through higher utility bills and more.

I though I would take this time to share with you all a little breath of fresh air as we fall onto times that are more expensive and maybe some relief on those as well. We do not need to let the recession beat us; rather we can beat it.

Here are just a few tips to help you beat the recession during these cooler and downright freezing months ahead!

As everyone is quite aware of, gas usage goes up during the fall and Winter Months. Furnaces are being turned on to take the chill out of the air in the fall and then move on to run non-stop during the winter months. During the winter, people begin to warm their vehicles up before leaving t o work as well. A couple things that will help lower your gas usage are:

Only warm your vehicle for no more than 5 minutes before you leave to work. Car pool if you can! Keep your home thermostat set at no more tan 68 degrees while you are at home and then turn it down 2 degrees before you leave to go to work and when you go to bed at night. Pull the blankets out and wear socks during you awake hours at home. Remember during the summer when you were so hot that you were turning the thermostat down to 68 just to cool off? Use that as your inspiration to remember that 68 degrees is really not that cold.

Electric bills go up as well during the fall and winter months. It is darker out earlier therefore at times it seems like every light on the house goes on, especially if you have kids! Put sticker reminders at all your light switches reminding yourself and others that if you are not using the room, shut off the lights. Regardless if your water heater is gas or electric, turn it down just a couple degrees. You would be amazed at the savings!

During the fall and winter months, produce prices go up as well. They are out of season and are being shipped in from areas where it is still feasible to grow. If you plan ahead during the later summer months and early fall you can stock up on many produce items and freeze or can them up for the winter. You can easily save a couple hundred dollars by just doing this!

Remember, just as home expenses go up, so does industrial expenses. And just how do they make up for their extra expenses – they raise their prices. It would be nice if homeowners could do the same, but we can’t unless we start charging the little ones, cats, dogs, and the occasional mice that want to set up house in our homes during the winter for our increased expenses.

If you use common sense alone, you can cut back on some of those expenses. Putting plastic up on windows, closing off rooms not used, insulation strips on doors and window seals, and throwing on a sweater or blanket rather than turning up the heat all help! The recession doesn’t have to hold you back from being comfortable or going broke. You can prosper if you want if you want it bad enough. To learn more about how you can prosper during the recession visit the Turning Point.

Holloween Parties and Costumes

It’s Halloween week, a week for ghost and goblins, if you believe in that stuff that is. With Halloween comes parties, both on a social level and work level often times, from dress up to dress down to bring on your best Halloween costume you can come up with. If you are faced this week of scrambling to come up with the perfect Halloween costume, but you are on a strict budget due to the recession, allow the recession to be your inspiration!

The recession doesn’t have to stop you from partaking into everything, and that goes for Halloween parties too. As far as Halloween costumes go, the great thing about them is you can go as cheap or as expensive as you want to. Playing off the recession theme you could dress up as a repo man, job seeker, or the Bear Market, all pretty scary!

There are not too many that are not far away from being just a paycheck away from not being able to afford their car payment now days, so the repo man may be just as scary as running into Freddy Kruger face to face! Although this costume, as well as the rest may be in bad taste to some, they are definitely a reality and if you can’t find some way to make for one day, you may just drive yourself insane! The look is easy to capture and cheap too. A casual pair of jeans, tee shirt and a ball cap wore backwards can cover it. Carry a clip board with repo man written across it with a black Sharpie, throw a wrench in your back pocket and you got it covered. You can add some humor to your costume by borrowing a child’s toy tow truck and carrying it along with you.

For the unemployed, hunting for work and tireless interviews is no laughing matter, so if you are unemployed, why not at least get a little fun out of it, and really play up the part on Halloween. Pull out your interview best attire, grab a brief case, and fill it with resumes. You never know when you just might run into a perspective employer!

Playing the part of the Bear Market might just get you a few hateful jabs, but again, an opportunity maybe to get back at the Bear by using a bear costume you can rent from any party supply store and then thro a fake arrow that you wear on the head appearing that it is going through the skull. To make sure nobody mistakes you as just a bear, make a red arrow out of cardboard and affix it to the costume in the front pointing down, and everyone will quickly figure out that you are a walking dead Bear Market.

I am sure many of you can come up with many clever ideas to have a chance to poke fun at the recession this Halloween, but just remember, the recession doesn’t have to hold you back! You can achieve anything you want if you want it bad enough. To learn more about how you can be all you can be visit the Turning Point.

Happy Monday

Happy Monday, or at least I hope it is a happy Monday. The news these days isn’t looking real promising as far as the employment rates. Unemployment is at an all time high and many families are suffering seriously due to it – loosing vehicles and homes while still struggling to find employment. It is really ugly and hard at times to find much positive about anything. It is times like this everyone needs to pull together and try even harder to find the good in the world and keep the faith that this too shall pass. Not always easy, understandably so- but more necessary now than ever before.

I woke up today with the these lyrics in my head, don’t know why, but was my inspiration in writing this blog. The lyrics go like this “You got to know when to hold em, know when to fold em, know when to walk away and know when to run…” and my thoughts were, if that isn’t a perfect representation of life in all aspects I don’t know what is. Now, I know the lyrics will be stuck in your head all day too like mine. But that’s good actually because it just may help, if even one person, to know either when they have done all they can on a personal level, in a relationship, or in business and move on, or to know when they need to try maybe just a little bit harder.

In life there are struggles, some easier than others. You can either fight your way through them or fold and start over. Some struggles are well worth the fight, others it is wiser to just fold and move on. No matter what decision you make, it is not failure, as long as you walk away with your head held up high and improve upon yourself and your world. In other words, if you are struggling in a dead in relationship, drop it and move on with your head held up high. When you start a new relationship, take your lessons from your previous relationship, and improve on a new one. It goes the same for business, financial venture, every aspect of your life.

The great thing about life is we do have options and no matter what is going on nothing can take that away from us. They can take the job, the car, and even the house, but only you can allow them to take your pride. To learn more ways on how you can improve upon yourself in all aspects of your life, visit the Turning Point and have a terrific Monday!

I thought I would leave you with a clip off YouTube of the song “The Gambler” by Kenny Rodgers. Enjoy!

Fall is the beginning of rebirthing…

Fall is natures way of rebirthing. For nature, it is the chance for things to shed off the old and prepare for the new, and to prepare for the much needed rest over the winter months. People on the other hand are not quite as lucky. Nature doesn’t necessarily give us a down time to rest and be rejuvenated for another new season. We just keep trudging along. Wouldn’t it be nice to have the winter off, say use your basement for your cave and hibernate away not to show again till Spring has hit? Okay, maybe not such a wonderful idea for those who love to soak up the snow on the slopes or on snowmobiles, ice fishing, and all the other fun stuff of winter, but just the idea of a rest, where the world just stops for a little while. Where there would be no bills needing paid, phones needing answered, diapers needing changing, groceries needing bought and the list could go on forever I am sure! Awe… just the thought makes me jealous of nature, even a little sad as I know it is not reality… buuuuuutttttttttt…… there are other ways we can get a little rebirthing of our own! Yes, believe it or not, it is true!

For example, a friend of mine gave me much inspiration in her way she gets a little rebirthing. In the Fall she and her boys collect the pods off her Hosta’s and they harvest the seeds. You may wonder what is so re-birthing about that – well, while it is still winter and not quite yet spring her boys and her plant the Hosta seeds in their own individual little containers where they nurture them through out the cold months to the young days of Spring. They do not do it for their own flowerbeds, as they have more than their share of flowers and greenery, they do it to resale them to others who need the power of nature in their lives. They don’t sell them for any huge profit, a little extra change for her boys to buy something little and special they want, but only for a couple bucks each, well under what they can be purchased for instead. The project of working alongside her children she says brings youth to her soul, getting their hands into the dirt brings the realization that anything can grow if it is nurtured, and the smile that is brought to all of their faces as they see the little seedling popping through it’s dirt bed are just some of the revitalization she receives from their yearly project. Then when they can bring the love of nature’s beauty to others, it completes the circle; it completes her rebirthing.

Okay, digging or playing in dirt may not be everyone’s cup of tea. Others may find just as much revitalization but a motivational speaker. Sometimes we just need to here ways that we can accent our lives to help us achieve all we can be - something that gives us a new purpose, perspective, or just simple refreshment on life. If you are seeking a rebirthing experience in your life, some inspiration, check out The Turning Point Seminar. And by all means find some time this weekend to relax and enjoy some quality down time. Have a great weekend!

When to let go…

Do you know when to let go? I am not just talking about relationships but also excessive baggage as well. Excessive baggage can be anything from some old tube socks you wore when you played football in Jr. High School to a wrong that was done to you as early as a week ago to as long as 20 plus years ago. Do you know when to let go those things that are living in your head and your living space rent-free?

If you hold onto everything in your past your surroundings become cluttered to where it makes it next to impossible to move around. Same thing goes with your head. You only have so much space up there for storage, and honestly, wouldn’t you rather fill that space up with the good things from your life?

Have you ever watch the TV show Hoarders? It airs on A&E TV. Hoarders are very much like anyone who allows excessive baggage to overcome their space in their emotional life. As one would learn from watching the show Hoarders - when one does not allow themselves to let go, it can manifest into a serious issue. Letting go can be one of the hardest things a person may have to do in their life, but also one of the most freeing. Imagine that everyday of your life you were required to carry a large burlap sack. Every day 10 marbles would be added to your sack and you are not allowed to give any of them away. For a while, the marbles may not hinder your life but as time carries on, and the sack begins to get heavier, they do start to interfere with your normal functions. As more time goes by and your sack gets even heavier, it can become unbearable. It is not until you are free of all those excessive marbles that you can feel free.

Do you have a burlap sack? What weighs down your burlap sack? Is it time to let some that you carry go? If you would like to learn more about letting go - check out The Turning Point Seminar.

Relationships are like a book…

Has anyone ever heard that metaphor before? Well, if you think about it, they are. You begin a book with anticipation just as you do a relationship, in hopes that it will be great from start to finish – sometimes they are, sometimes they are not – just like relationships.

When you start reading a book, you do not know exactly how it is going to end. When it is a great book, you just want it to go on forever and when the book isn’t so great, you may not finish it.

I am going to lead you into a few more metaphors in regards to relationships and would like to see how many you can come up with too!

Relationships are like a great cup of coffee - good to the last drop!

Relationships are like an obstacle course – tons of challenges, twist, and turns, not knowing for sure if you will make it through to the end, but know if you stay strong with your partner you will both come through at the end together!

Relationships are like a rollercoaster – full of ups and downs, and even totally being put upside down – some of it fun and exhilarating, some of it scary as all beat out, but at the end you are left smiling.

Relationships are like a snowball - as it rolls down the hill it collects more snow making it next to impossible to roll a the enlarged snowball back up the hill, as in a relationship, as it ages it collects all the good and bad which makes it hard to consider losing it.

Relationships are like a pressure cooker. If you use it right, the end results will be delicious, but if you use it wrong you will have a huge mess on your hands!

Okay, that is the end of mine.. It is your turn now. Show me what you have! If you would like to learn how to make any relationship, - business, pleasure, or personal – better, check into the Turning Point Seminar.

Tuesday magnetism

Tuesday is here and I am sure if you are here you made it through Monday, hopefully with a smiling face! Did you know your smile alone can improve your personal magnetism? Do you know what that can mean to the passion in a relationship? Va---Voooooom! How would you like to turn up your personal magnetism? If you are in a relationship it can only accentuate your already existing bond. If you are not in a relationship and are seeking that perfect person to accent your life, turning up your personal magnetism will bring you more options than you will be able to handle.

Everything plays into everything when it comes to ones attitude. Allow me to explain that statement. Everything you do in life plays off your attitude. A shitty attitude doesn’t bring a forward a very bright life nor does it bring on very healthy relationships. People who carry around negativity and/or a poor attitude are only going to attract likewise individuals if anyone at all.

To begin improving your personal magnetism you must first visualize yourself as someone worthy of such attention, because everyone is and everyone has it in them to be a magnet! Yes! Even you! If you would like to learn how you too can attract great people into your circle like a magnet check out The Turning Point Seminar.

Dreaded Monday?

How was your weekend? Was it a happy stress free one? I hope so!

How many felt the dread waking up this Monday morning? It seems to be a common trademark of Mondays’ and that is really too bad. Monday’s don’t need to be dreaded. Okay, I am not saying you need to embrace them with all you have, but Monday’s could be considered a fresh start rather than the dreaded thought of another long work week.

Perception is everything! It is in how we perceive things, which determines a huge percentage of the outcome. If you perceive your day to be one of dread, more than likely you will get what you wished. It you start every day with an optimistic attitude, your chances of having a productive day rises. Add enthusiasm, determination, and do it all with a happy face and attitude and even the worse thing that could go wrong won’t be near as disastrous.

When we are working throughout our day and something turns foul, it is even more important for us to revamp our attitudes. Yes, you may be ticked off, and understandably so, and maybe even feel a little defeated, but now is not the time to succumb to those feelings. When in war, if you don’t fight back you lose. No, you are not pulling out the guns and ammo, killing off the enemies – you might find out the enemy is yourself! Fighting back simply means re-strategizing – regrouping – possibly delegating out some work – and putting on a positive attitude! Yes, sometimes it can be hard to pull it back together, but it is harder to continue with a shitty attitude!

“The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results”. ~ Albert Einstein Don’t drive yourself insane. You have it within you to make the necessary changes to turn any situation around if you dig deep enough within and apply the right attitude. You can achieve anything you want. ~ Let the Turning Point Seminar help you achieve all you can be.

It’s Friday! Are you Happy?

Okay everyone, it is Friday. Depending on what time of day you are reading this your work week is over or at least you know it is only hours away until the weekend is yours. So are you happy? Even though it is Friday there are still many people who do not feel happy, that even the thought of the weekend of no work arriving does nothing for their inner feelings. When a person feels exhausted, alone, dissatisfied, empty, and/or frustrated, the feeling of happiness is far off. But this is the time you really should not give up on striving to be happy. Do not accept status quo and leave your fate in mercy. It is the time to gather all your forces, and change your life today to become happy!

How, you may ask, does one become happy? Here are a few tips to help you find your inner happiness. If you are feeling down, use your weekend off using these tips to begin the healing process and bring the happy back.

Define the things that are important to you. Not only what they are, but how they make you happy.

Think of the last time you really felt happy. Where were you? Were you with anyone? What were you doing? Now is a great time to revisit that feeling.

Devote more time to things that are important to you and simple everyday things that make you happy if it is hanging out with a friend, gardening, eating a nice meal, whatever.. just do it!

Find small things that bring a smile to your face. A favorite cologne, a book, visiting relatives, conversation with a close friend, etc..

Think positive! Write on a paper your positive points and all those things that give you happiness.

Evaluate the positive pieces in your life. Embrace the greatness of them and you!

The concept of happiness is a personal matter and each of us to find happiness must search through our self. The best think you can do for your life is to change your life today and be happy! And BY ALL MEANS… HAVE A GREAT WEEKEND!!!!!
What makes you happy? Have you achieved it? If you would like to learn more about how you can achieve a personal well-being that leads to a pure sense of happiness, please visit The Turning Point.

Holidays are coming, so is stress… How to be happy even under stress

Yikes!!! The holidays are right around the corner. There is so much to do, so much planning, shopping, cooking, and more planning, and time constraints, and often times, - too often – family conflicts. What does this all spell out? STRESS!!! And lots of it unfortunately. I mean, after all, isn’t the holidays suppose to be joyous, carefree loving times? Happy times? You would think, but too often the stress that can come with it can be so overwhelming, and if not dealt with correctly, can make holidays anything but joyous for some. So just how do you go about being happy even under immense stress?

Well you can start with a smile. Seriously… a smile can be all it takes to start turning the stress from its damaging state to a productive state. Yes, stress can be productive. Think about when you have company coming on short notice. You are under the clock and you want your home to be presentable as well as yourself. In no time flat you have ran through the house and gave it a good appearance of clean as I call it and made it to the bathroom to freshen up and toss on a little smelly. You are ready to greet your guest when they arrive moments later. That is productive stress. Same way with deadlines.. The clock is ticking down and the stress is building up, after a couple screams your determination not to be beat kicks in and that stress becomes the driving force to your on time project completion.

When under stress during the holidays seasons, think of the outcome, what you are trying to achieve – may it be a pleasant and tasty meal, a tree full of gifts under it, or peace and good will to all mankind (okay, that is a huge order, but you get the idea) and focus on that goal. When working the overtime think about your children or the persons delight they will have when you achieve the ability to purchase that perfect gift you been wanting to get them but just couldn’t afford. Do not dwell on the fact that you are burning the candle at both ends. I know when I am working and am becoming drained I remember why I am doing it, why I strive so hard, and then the stress turns into my energy base.

Here are some tips on how to be happy even under stress that will help you get through the rough spots during the holidays or anytime for that matter.

1) Recall happy memories and focus on them.

2) Stop what you are doing and find a reason to smile. Say you are baking a pie – pat some flour on your face just because and look at yourself. Smile! Remember why you are baking and the smiles it will bring to those peoples faces that are devouring every morsel. Find a reason to find a little humor or smile.

3) Pick up the phone and call someone who is a positive person in your life, call a friend, have a laugh. Just take that break and make a connection – yes… reach out and touch someone.

4) Breath!!!! Yes, often when under stress your breathing pattern even changes. Stop, sit down, and breath in--- breath out---.

5) Make lists! They are a great booster if you make them right! Don’t write 1. Clean house. 2. Prepare food. etc… Break down your tasks in small steps like... 1. Make bed, 2. Change toilet paper roll, 3. Clean toilet, 4. Dust living room, 5. Dust den, 6. Sweep kitchen floor, 7. Mop kitchen floor, etc… - that way you get to cross off a lot of stuff more frequently. The better organized you are the less stress you will feel as well.
What do you do to help alleviate stress in your life – holidays or not? What makes you happy? Have you achieved it? If you would like to learn more about how you can achieve a personal well-being that leads to a pure sense of happiness, please visit The Turning Point.

How does being happy change ones fate?

Who the heck wouldn’t want to be happy in the first place, it is one of life’s priceless treasures, but not only that, being happy does have a significant impact on your fate. Think about it for a minute. If you were to go around in a gloom all the time, do you think great things would come your way? No. Seriously, who wants to befriend a gloomy person, hire a gloomy person, or marry little lone date a gloomy person?

Being happy is a positive attitude and everyone knows a positive attitude negates negativity. Positivity shows ambition, desire, dreams, hopes, future, and inspiration. A positive person generates positivity and inspires others. A positive person is happy. This doesn’t mean that the happy person is dripping in gold, driving the fanciest car, independently wealthy, or living in a mansion. It simply means that they know who they are and are content with that. They know that they can achieve whatever it is they need to achieve as long as they stay positive and surround themselves with likewise people. If that cannot change someone’s fate, I would like to know what could!

An unhappy life only leads people to take unnecessary risks that never provide a solution to the problem, being unhappy. For example, entering into an extramarital affair when your marriage hits a lull, or buying a fancy car just because you feel it will feel a void or give you a lift in life, or moving into an expensive house on a day old bread store budget to attempt to feel like you “fit in” somewhere. Being happy isn’t seeking out others to make you happy, having possessions, or trying to “fit in”.

One will never find true happiness by taking unnecessary risks or filling up their lives with useless items. Eventually they will realize that the unhappiness they were trying to drown still exists. This type of behavior just manifests itself to a never-ending cycle of looking for more, asking for more, and feeling more and more alone, confused and dissatisfied. Happiness is in you, you just have to be willing to search it out within yourself first.

What makes you happy? Have you achieved it? If you would like to learn more about how you can achieve a personal well-being that leads to a pure sense of happiness please visit The Turning Point.

Feeling down? How do you break the blues?

Have you ever heard the saying that no one can make you unhappy, sad, etc… op you believe it? To a extent it is true, you choose what and how things are going to effect you, whether it be happy or sad. Some situations you are going to be sad, heart broken, or even downright distraught about a situation or event in your life. Death, divorce, and lost employment are a few examples. It is in how you handle it after the initial sadness is what determines how healthy you handle disturbing life events.

With death, there is the typical grieving process, which varies in duration from one person to the net. Divorce is similar that each individual handles it differently according to the reasons that led to the divorce. Loss of employment can seem like death, but dwelling on the loss instead of getting up, brushing off, and starting over again can be the difference between a fulfilling happy life or one that is lived in misery.

Broken relationships are no different in the matter of moving past the event. If people would learn to process their emotional events in their life, work through them, take the good from them as well as the hard knocks lessons and move on, they would find their lives much more fulfilling and awarding. Dwelling only leads to excessive blues that can become compounded with other issues if one doesn’t work through the bad.

So you are feeling down, it could be as simple as the weather that is making you blue or to anyone of the previous mentioned events that is holding you down but you know you need to break the blues. So how do you go about it? Here are a few suggestions that will help you work towards breaking those blue days.

A person learns to be more content when they stop comparing their lives to everyone else’s, comparing possessions, and even relationships. There will always be people that have it better off than you, as well as there will always be people who have it worse than you. If you keep comparing yourself to those who have more possessions, better relationships, and etc., you will always be unhappy or not fully content. Possession and even relationships compliment us as a person, they do not make us.

People learn to be content when they accept the fact that there is something’s in our lives that we simply do not have any control over, such as death. No matter how much we may want to change something, there are some things you will never be able to change. In relationships for instance, you cannot make someone love you no matter how hard you try. Heck, you can’t even make someone like you if they chose not too. You do not have control over that person’s emotions, thoughts, feelings, soul, or heart no matter how much you wish you did so stop dwelling on it, brush off and push on.

To thy own self be true is the key to contentment. As longs as you concentrate on the things you can change and not the things you have no control over, you will find contentment.

What makes you happy? Have you achieved it? How do you go about getting over the blues? If you would like to learn more about how you can achieve a personal well-being that leads to a pure sense of happiness please visit The Turning Point.

What makes you happy?

It’s Monday, the start of a new workweek. Another week down and infinity left. Sometimes that infinity can be a real downer when you are drained and feeling less than inspired. So when you are having one of those not so chipper days, how do you turn it around? What makes you happy?

Conventional wisdom says that happiness lies with one self and no one can make you happy and genuine happiness is a state of contentment, a peace of mind, and sense of well being regardless of outward circumstances going on in your life. Sounds good doesn’t it? How many of you believe it to be true, that no matter what is going on in your life you can be happy?

A common denominator with all people is we all desperately seek to be happy. When was the last time you heard of someone purposely trying to seek unhappiness? Even in the Declaration of Independence, second paragraph, it declares that the pursuit of happiness is one of our inalienable rights. And by golly some people take that right to extremely literally and will roll over anyone who gets in their way of achieving what they deem the ultimate happiness. However, happiness and contentment isn't getting what we want, but being satisfied with what we have. This doesn’t mean we have to accept status quo, just know your limitations. Some people in their pursuit of happiness are spending themselves into financial ruin in an attempt to capture it. But it seems the harder they try, the more futile their quest.

I wonder at times if people really realize when they have achieved ultimate happiness, if they even recognize or if there are people that no matter how much they have in possession, wealth, and health can never truly be happy. One reason so many people are unhappy with their status quo is that they really haven’t taken the time to figure out just what really makes them happy. A successful person isn’t necessarily happy, so using that as a measurement of happiness can be a bad standard to set.

Be true to thy own self…and if you are unhappy, look inside and you will find the answer…Happiness has nothing to do with possessions, environment, or health, it has to do with contentment.

What makes you happy? Have you achieved it? If you would like to learn more about how you can achieve a personal well-being that leads to a pure sense of happiness please visit: The Turning POint

Sometimes even on Saturday...

Friday is finally here. For many that means tomorrow can be a day of rest and relaxation, not having to get up before the sun, and being able to spend time with family and/or friends. For others, Saturday is just another day of the workweek. For those of you who will still be on the clock tomorrow, take pride in knowing that prosperity has no limits, even if it means having to work on a Saturday.

When you work those Saturdays when you would rather be doing anything else in order to take care of a household is a great role model. In order to be a great leader, you have to be a great role model. Some things in life come easy for some people, others have to really work at all that they achieve. The thing that sets the winners apart from the ones who struggle is the ambition, desire, inner strength, and determination it takes to do what has to be done regardless if they always like it or not. I really don’t know of anyone who likes working 24/7, but in a start up business, or even in building a family, 24/7 is what it takes. A great leader has a set vision and will do what it takes to achieve that vision, be it in family, relationship, or business. A great leader is able to inspire others to see their vision and work towards that vision together in all aspects of life. A great leader will win in love, life, and business every time. If you wish to embrace your inner strength and become a great leader visit: The Turning Point ~

Have a great weekend everyone!

Please and Thank You ~ Just a couple of the magic words.

Have you ever noticed how persuasive a child can be around Christmas time, or their birthday? Do you recall when you was a child? Do you recall when you wanted something really bad you thought you would just die if you didn’t get it? Now, do you remember to what great lengths you would go to get what your heart desired? That was persuasion at its finest. What is in everyone from the moment of birth is the art of persuasion. From the way we cooed to the great persuasive lines we would come up with to convince our parents just why it was so important that you received that dream toy to the extent we would even say we would never ask for anything EVER again, or clean our room daily. Regardless if we truly meant it, at the moment we meant it with everything we had in our little bodies.

Granted, some could see that as manipulative, and in a sense, it was when we were young. Heck, some could even say that the deep heart felt promises of cleaning our rooms and never asking for a single thing ever again was lying, and in a sense they would be right as well. Both manipulation and lying are not great leadership skills, but the fact that we all were born with the art of persuasion does show we all have the ability to be great leaders.

The art of persuasion don’t mean you have to have the skills of a slick salesman, it just means you have the skills it takes to bring others to see your point of view using logic, reason, and emotion. A great leader inspires cooperation not by intimidation, but rather inspiration by talking from the heart. After all, think about it, as a child when we tried to persuade our parents to do fulfill our desires, we did so from our hearts.

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Like a Game of Chess

Being a great leader is like playing a game of chess, you strategize every move. You carefully consider every possible outcome before making the next counter attack. A great leader is strategic in their thinking and planning. Rather than just looking at the singular big sale, they look at where the big sales are at, partnering to gain market advantage, and creating the perfect strategic alliances that in the long run will generate hundreds and thousands of sales rather than the singular big sale.

With strategy comes tactical intelligence – looking at the facts, figures, numbers, and data - what has worked in the past, innovative proven tactical and strategically planned moves. They are focused. They have a mission and have their eye set on the prize, that final move, the win. A great leader achieves what they set out to do before making the next move. It is a well oiled strategically, tactically, and well focused plan.

If you have played the game of chess ever in your life, you know it takes strategy, focused tactically planned moves. Without that, you will never win the game and without using these skills in your leadership, you will never score the win.

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Inspiration all day long!

Tip one in being a great leader was having the skill of being a visionary. Tip two is being Inspirational. If you have a vision, you have to be able to sell that vision. You cannot do that if you are not inspirational. You have to be able to inspire everyone involved to see and want what you do. Does this mean you have to be some great speaker or have the charm of a snake charmer – no- although those skills do not hurt to have, they are not mandatory in order to get your vision across to others. Some great leaders were low key leaders. Your words and actions speak the loudest. This again doesn’t mean you have to give long drawn out motivational speeches to get others to do what you desire, it is the impact of your words, no matter how few, that make the difference.

A little inspiration quote for you in closing… “It is through cooperation, rather than conflict, that your greatest successes will be derived…” ~ Ralph Charell ~
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Inspiring Others takes great Leadership Skills

Have you ever wished you could inspire others to do exactly as you wished? Do not feel bad, many people do wish they possessed that skill. Part of being able to inspire others to do your will is by being a great leader. Poor leadership skills will get you nowhere. The next couple of weeks I intend on discussing the things that make a person a great leader that can inspire anyone to do their bidding.

To be a great leader you need to be a visionary. You need to be able to envision a picture of what you want, as small as a task completed or as big as how you want your future to be. When you have a clear picture of what you want, a great leader can portray that picture onto others to help them achieve the goal. However, to get the best picture of what you want to achieve be it at home or in business is to get as many ideas and as much support as you can to help create the vision.

A little inspiration quote for you in closing…
“No matter what accomplishments you make, somebody helped you.” ~ Althea Gibson ~

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Overcoming Fear ~ The Turning Point

When a person lives with chronic fear it can be both physically and emotionally debilitating which is not conducive to a very fulfilling life. Often times fear can prevent a person from really becoming all they can be. Here is the killer for some. Sometimes the irrational fear becomes so intense that even overcoming the fear is fearful. When fear gets this intense, medical intervention may be the only thing that can help. However, basic fears such as speaking in public, fear of heights, and even fear of success can be overcame. ((Yes, there is such a thing as fear of success – when one fears to try something new, out of their comfort zone that would make a change in their life for the better has a fear of success).

Remember the bay and that mean old John Watson in fear conditioning? Well later in 1920, just as the baby was conditioned to fear mice, a scientist Mark Barad of UCLA did his own little experiment but without the baby. He first conditioned mice to fear a particular sound. He did this by playing a certain sound and then followed the sound with an electrical shock to the bottom of the mice’s cage. The mice quickly learned to fear that sound knowing that coming short after it they were going to get a shock of their life, literally. Well, after making sure the mice were successfully scared to death of the sound, Mr. Barad went on to do a little fear extinction. After a period of time of Barad playing that particular sound and not following up behind it with an electrical shock, the mice began to no longer fear the sound. Repeated exposure to what one fears will help one overcome particular fears as well as self-talk.

Over the weekend I hope if you are fearing something that is holding you back from accomplishing everything you would like to be that you take the time to look at the benefits of attending the Turning Point Seminar at http://www.theturningpointtickets.com/ on the 14th and 15th of November in Las Vegas. Sometimes are biggest obstacles in life are ourselves.

Have a great weekend!

Little white mice.. fear conditioning

Fear is a natural instinct when it comes to self-preservation, but other fears can be developed in a person due to various outside stimuli. For example, if a dog bit you you may be more apt to fear dogs – fell off a horse, more apt to fear horseback riding – almost drown, more apt to fear water, etc. Fear conditioning is another reason why some people fear certain things. Back in 1920 a psychologist by the name of John Watson decided to test the theory of fear conditioning with a 11 month old baby. Now days what he did would prove to be borderline child abuse if not consider blatant child abuse but it did prove that fear can be taught or conditioned into someone unfoundly. What he did was conditioned the 11th month old baby to fear white mice. Every time the baby would reach out to touch the little white mice Watson created a terrifying loud noise behind the baby. Not only was the baby that once showed great joy around the laboratory mice now afraid of them, he was also afraid of any small furry animal.

Phobias are an intense type of fear that is persistent and not based off any rational sense of imminent danger. It prevents people from engaging into activities that may trigger the phobia. There are three main types of phobias: agoraphobia – fear of being trapped in a space that one could not escape from easily in case of danger, social phobia – fear on encounters with people, and specific phobia – fear of a particular thing or situation. Some common fears people have reported having are public speaking, going to the dentist, snakes, mice, heights, and getting cancer.

Experiencing fear every once in a while is a normal part of life, but when irrational fear keeps you from achieving all you can be, it is time to do something about it.

Tomorrow I plan on discussing overcoming fear. Until then, feel free to check out all the information on the Turning Point seminar at http://www.theturningpointtickets.com/.